I am still haunted - each week that leads up to Nathan's birthday I'm haunted by the memories that that seep in no matter my trying to block them off and just concentrate on the happiness and the moment...
Noah was so sick ... the local ER had brushed it off as a virus and never really cared to hear what we were saying, he looked like a normal little boy, he was demanding I read books to him to try to escape how bad he felt - but really he was a little boy trying to act not sick because he carries major white coat anxiety. A child with so many medical issues, who's been through surgeries and countless tests, and he's not always truthful about what is going on or his pain because he fears needles and surgeries, and big human that make him pee in cups.
I can never forget the utter terror running through my veins that morning in April of 2007, when he was lethargic and unresponsive, vomiting and running a 104 temp. I had to go two hours away to the hospital he was born at, the hospital that his brother would be born at sometime that week... it was my last doctors appointment - and we were going to find out that day which day that week he (Nathan) would be born. But here, at home, I had this super sick little boy. I couldn't choose, I couldn't pick one child over the other. So I did the ONLY thing I could do, and I picked both.
I had my husband scoop up Noah and put him in the van. I pumped him full of ibuprofen and tylonel to work his fever down. We brought a puke bowl, just in case. We packed up like we were going to have a baby, and threw in some stuff for Noah - just incase. All I could think was, if he was going to be admitted, I wanted us at the same hospital.
We got there, we went through my ultrasound, my appointment, baby was going to be born that Thursday Then we focused on Noah, we got him in to see the Urgent Care. I remember being back in that room for an hour before a doctor got in to see us. By the time she did, the ibuprofen had worn off, the tylonel was long gone out of his system ... and he was burning up, asleep in my arms, and not waking up .... I was terrified.
Mostly I was terrified that no one would believe me on how sick he was. How sick I knew he was. I felt like I was going to get blown off again and I was going to cry. This was not my child. I felt like he was slipping away from me and I couldn't do anything about it.
Then she came in, the doctor, and she sat by me.... and she took one look at him, and it was like she knew. She knew.
She reassured me, she could tell something was wrong. She was already talking about admitting him, what tests she was going to do .... and I just felt ... free. Finally someone believed me. Finally someone took notice to how sick he was.
She later told me, after it was discovered that he had C-Diff, and was in kidney failure, that he was close to dying. If we hadn't gotten him in when we did - he would have been dead with in a few days. There would have been no fixing him. It would have been too far damaging to his tiny little body.
If that wasn't enough.... if the fact that before he was even born I was told he wouldn't survive, period wasn't enough....
I have to go through it again? Now with Nathan?
Last fall when Nathan was running that mysterious 106 temperature .... we were taken by ambulance to Seattle ... but it was just a form of transportation ... We were scared. We were watching him and we were scared. But we never got to that point where we were worried. We were close, but we weren't there.....
This all started 2 weeks ago. Just ... two weeks.
I guess the first clue that things were serious, was when they decided to transport us by ambulance... and we got in the ambulance, and the EMT says "We're going to go lights and sirens, just to get there quicker."
He made it sound like it was no big deal. Something told me it was. I brushed off my fears, let myself believe that it was no big deal. But I was messaging his Dad, my Mom, one of my best friends.... freak-king-out....
I remember, the ambulance had shown up super quick. DB didn't even have the time to get home and get back because he went home - five minutes away - and pack up some stuff. It sounded like he was definitely going to be admitted. The ambulance showed up - whisked us away .... and now we were headed to Seattle with the lights and sirens going. And I remember messaging DB going ... "do you hear the sirens? Do you hear them? That's us!"
I remember looking out the back windows of the ambulance, watching cars pull over and watching cars not pull over and thinking what kind of idiots are they ....
Nathan slept. He doesn't even remember the ambulance ride. That's what he says now, anyway.
When we were about to get to Seattle Children's .... the EMT in back with us called ahead, and was giving Nathan's stats and he said a few things that caught my attention ..... "Severe Sepsis" and "Kidney Failure" ....
.... I thought, have they gotten Nathan's records mixed up with Noah's?
I messaged my Mom, I messaged Dennis.... I messaged one of my best friends....
I looked at the EMT ... I said "Did I hear you right?" and he said "That's what we were told, that's what's on his paper work" .... and he handed it to me. The stack of paper work that was accompanying Nathan. It showed the blood test results... and various other things.... including the six diagnoses.... including Severe Sepsis and Kidney Failure. It was right there ... in black and white......
I looked at his blood tests but without google, I really couldn't make heads or tails of it.... but there was definitely some stuff going on .... levels were high, levels were low....
It was clear my baby was sick.
We got to the ER in Children's and we ended up spending the rest of the day in the ER. There was a debate - if he should be placed in ICU or on the floor. It ended up being decided that they would place him in a regular room but the ICU staff, specifically the Risk Nurse, would follow up a few times a day. We got to the ER at home around 8 AM .... we got to the Hospital in Seattle right around Noon. WE DID NOT GET A ROOM UNTIL after Midnight!!!
With in a few day, Nathan got better. On Mother's Day I was excited. He was better, he was eating and I got him up to walk - and he wanted to walk more. He was looking AMAZING ...
But then the unthinkable happened. He went from maybe going home in the next couple days, to being rushed off to the ICU.....
Nathan was in Sepsis Shock.
Lets have a little lesson on Sepsis .....
Many doctors view sepsis as a three-stage syndrome, starting with sepsis and progressing through severe sepsis to septic shock. The goal is to treat sepsis during its mild stage, before it becomes more dangerous.
Sepsis
To be diagnosed with sepsis, you must exhibit at least two of the following symptoms:
- Body temperature above 101 F (38.3 C) or below 96.8 F (36 C)
- Heart rate higher than 90 beats a minute
- Respiratory rate higher than 20 breaths a minute
- Probable or confirmed infection
Severe sepsis
Your diagnosis will be upgraded to severe sepsis if you also exhibit at least one of the following signs and symptoms, which indicate an organ may be failing:
- Significantly decreased urine output
- Abrupt change in mental status
- Decrease in platelet count
- Difficulty breathing
- Abnormal heart pumping function
- Abdominal pain
Septic shock
To be diagnosed with septic shock, you must have the signs and symptoms of severe sepsis — plus extremely low blood pressure that doesn't adequately respond to simple fluid replacement.
Sepsis ranges from less to more severe. As sepsis worsens, blood flow to vital organs, such as your brain, heart and kidneys, becomes impaired. Sepsis can also cause blood clots to form in your organs and in your arms, legs, fingers and toes — leading to varying degrees of organ failure and tissue death (gangrene).
Most people recover from mild sepsis, but the mortality rate for septic shock is nearly 50 percent. Also, an episode of severe sepsis may place you at higher risk of future infections.
Early, aggressive treatment boosts your chances of surviving sepsis. People with severe sepsis require close monitoring and treatment in a hospital intensive care unit. If you have severe sepsis or septic shock, lifesaving measures may be needed to stabilize breathing and heart function.
Medications
A number of medications are used in treating sepsis. They include:
- Antibiotics. Treatment with antibiotics begins immediately — even before the infectious agent is identified. Initially you'll receive broad-spectrum antibiotics, which are effective against a variety of bacteria. The antibiotics are administered intravenously (IV).After learning the results of blood tests, your doctor may switch to a different antibiotic that's more appropriate against the particular bacteria causing the infection.
- Vasopressors. If your blood pressure remains too low even after receiving intravenous fluids, you may be given a vasopressor medication, which constricts blood vessels and helps to increase blood pressure.
Other medications you may receive include low doses of corticosteroids, insulin to help maintain stable blood sugar levels, drugs that modify the immune system responses, and painkillers or sedatives.
Supportive care
People with severe sepsis usually receive supportive care including oxygen and large amounts of intravenous fluids. Depending on your condition, you may need to have a machine help you breathe or another to provide dialysis for kidney failure.
Surgery
Surgery may be needed to remove sources of infection, such as collections of pus (abscesses).
This picture (above) is the impact picture on how sick he was. He was hooked up to SO MUCH stuff. They were pumping him full of fluids. He was so swollen ....
Here is an example of his swelling - this was the day he went to the DR (day prior to hospital) and the first day at the hospital.
Nathan went through all of that - right up to possibly needing the surgery. He had a UTI, he had an infection in his scrotum which included a small abscess and they determined he had Ecoli also.
We are lucky. We are, and I know it. We are grateful to be home. We are grateful he's on the mend. He's working on healing .... it's going to be a long road for him.
We are grateful to have HIM home with us and on the mend.
It was all processing with DB while Nathan was in the hospital and I couldn't even begin to process it until after we got home. It's been five days since we got home. I'm still processing it. I still feel as if I'm drowning a little. I can't make sense of it. The writer in me has to make sense of things. This lead to that which caused this reaction and .....
You can't make sense of your child almost dying.
You can't.
I even spent some time looking for support groups today. There are none .... none that I could find anyway ...
I realize I need help processing and I can't seem to find any.
I need to express but I can't and don't want to dwell on it ....
I don't know how to get out of this sinking feeling, this feeling like I'm drowning in the what could have been or the what if's .... I don't live in that space, and I don't like that space, I like to live in the now.
When you have a child that you are basically told is going to die before he is even born, you have to live in the now. You have to live day to day and not dwell on yesterday or tomorrow.... worry about what is ... right... now. Celebrate each day the best you can. Love, Laugh, Learn, Live. When you know that anything could happen, at any time.... it's hard not to take each moment and cherish it, because that's exactly what you should do.
So I don't understand why I am having such a hard time, after the fact ..... it's not the first time my child has almost died, or that I have been faced with some great odds against us - or even known that my children may have a time clock ticking down faster and hard than my own.
I choose not to live in that .....
.... so I just want to escape it right now.. but the grasp is tight, and it's choking me.
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